I had a dream last night about one of my female friends (I'm male; to add a little background info we met in high school and we communicate daily most of the time). I honestly don't remember much of the dream at all but the part that seems to be burned into my head now is walking through the outdoor mall in our town that she fancies and out of nowhere I catch her giving a guy a blowjob in one of the spaces between the buildings and we both kind get a surprised and she moves the guy a bit further into the alleyway where I then feel myself getting hornier than I've ever been to the point that I got an erection that felt like a rock. I then proceeded to start recording it on my phone and she notices it and starts getting more and more passionate with the blowjob. After that I woke up, but I've been thinking about it ever since.
So Reddit, what could this dream mean? If you need any more info please feel free ask. I just want to get to the bottom of this.
P.S.: I've posted this in three different relevant subreddits so I can get as much insight into this as possible.
I see a few ways of looking at it.
One, you're jealous or envious of the attention your friend gives to other guys.
Two, she said or did something publicly to embarrass herself.
Three, she represents something about you and the dream is about integrating this part of yourself. Dreams have a way of presenting this psychological process in terms of sex.
Four, you've been talking about sex, perhaps with her. The symbolism stems from the idea of oral sex being used by dreams to mean sex talk.
A key detail is you decide to record her on your phone. It suggests the idea of public performance, so it makes me wonder if the dream is replaying a memory of your friend talking about sex in public, even if just on Facebook or something.
These are just ideas. Anything ring a bell?
Well, you can say that I was jealous in a way and then pretty angry when the guy she went after did her dirty.
In another sense, I've tried to talk her into masturbating as a way to relieve her emotions from seeking a relationship but that went nowhere. And going in even deeper, I came across porn that had actresses that looked similar to her and have been hooked ever since (not in an obsessive way, but rather that its one of my gotos whenever I'm in the mood).
Now I do have a possible theory about your last point: she says she doesn't feel attractive but I've noticed guys checking her out before. Even older guys.
Who knows, but all of them have certain overlapping emotions with what you've presented.
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