It’s weird how, in most romantic comedies (or dramas for that matter), the characters involved never have anxiety attacks about whether they’re attractive, funny, clever, or exciting enough for the person they see across the room. They simply meet and just assume they’re going to date, and they usually do.
In real life, on the other hand, we’re full of insecurities. This might be the exact reason why so many love affairs stay one-sided. So, if you’re someone’s secret admirer, you might find the following signs completely identifiable.
Here are some major habits of someone with a secret crush:
Unintentional Stalking
When you first come to the terrible realisation that you find someone at your office/school/gym/etc. cute, you become a stalker without even knowing it. You start by staring at the ALL the time, then you use covert tactics to find out their name, and then comes the scary social stalking.
Daydreaming
Before you really know much about this person, you start imagining what your life would be like together. This phase also extends to the moment when you actually ask that person out, and you run imaginary scenarios detailing every possible outcome.
Desperately Trying to Stay out of the Friend Zone
You know that if you become friends with this person that you’ll never have a chance of actually being with them, so you actively try to avoid meeting with your crush in any social situation that could lead to friendship.
Obsessing over Whether to Tell Them
If you tell your crush how you feel and they don’t feel the same, you make things awkward between the two of you. So, you try to find the perfect way to do it. This usually involves trying to find out how they feel about you, which means you have to do some dangerous recon deep inside the treacherous ‘friend zone’.
Driving Your Friends Crazy
While you’re trying to discover the best way to turn your crush into your girlfriend or boyfriend, you enlist the help of your friends. They are happy to help at first, but your endless indecision hijacks every night out with your friends until they are like, ‘Just tell them already!’
Becoming an Analytics Expert
You sent your crush a text that was sort of flirty, but they didn’t reply. It’s been too long for them to have just nipped to the bathroom, so, do they know you like them? Maybe they’re just cooking dinner, or their phone died as a power cut hit. Or, is the person trying to avoid the friend zone by ignoring you? Maybe they like you too? But then why didn’t they respond to the flirtation? This can make your head feel like it’s going to explode.
Utter Resentment and Fake Closure
Your crush has alienated you from your friends, jeopardised your sanity, and caused you emotional agony without even knowing it. This makes you really angry and resentful. So, finally you tell yourself that you’re over it and don’t even care if they like you or not. It’s a total lie, of course, which you try to believe even as you glance longingly at their beautiful face out of habit.
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